Dear self❤️….. Beauty in scars

Standing before the mirror with my towel tied to my chest, preparing to have my beauty bath, I took a moment to admire my body but then the sight of the acnes and pimples taking full dominance of my face, chest and back switched my mood. This made me start choosing the clothes that’ll cover up the spots and pimples on my body,I couldn’t wear my previous V-necked tops comfortably 😭 Immediately,I called my mum,cried and complained about the changes in my body and she said “Babe, don’t worry too much about nature,this is the stage of your life where your body is bound to go through a lot of changes and it’s totally okay to feel insecure but I’ll get you some beauty products to help you clear them off”.We spoke and laughed,few minutes later,we ended the call,but then I was still weak.I picked up my phone and I was scrolling through my Instagram page,I came across Kechi Okwuchi’s pictures, she was proudly flaunting her laps despite her scars.And this helped me regain my self confidence.
Loving yourself is the best thing ever
Undiluted self confidence and self love is very important.

You fall short of self love because the world has given the impression of what it means to have a perfect body,but you seem to forget that your body is an art of God which means physical perfection
Flaunt and cherish your scars
Don’t give an ear to what people say
Their opinion about your body doesn’t count
Love what the world sees as imperfection
Love the body you possess
You’re the image of God and you’re wonderfully made
If perfect is what you seek,then take a good look at yourself
You’re a King
You’re a Queen

Is loving yourselves being able to look in the mirror for once without criticising your own body?

Is loving ourselves finally feeling content with where you are at in life? Is it being able to be happy for both yourself and others when we achieve success? Does loving ourselves involve speaking and thinking kindly of ourselves or listening to our needs and putting ourselves first SOMETIMES?

For many of us, we need to learn how to conquer and keep our demons in check.Every day, we are choosing. We may not choose our circumstances, but we choose how we react. In fact, the only thing truly within our control is ourselves and our choices. It’s all we have.

Build your self factors:Self love,self confidence,self esteem and self appreciation,once in a while,take a break,go on a “self date” ,go to a fancy restaurant and satisfy your cravings,read good books, listen to good music,do what makes you happy and ease the tension and unnecessary pressure that killing your self esteem and depreciating you

So even when other people hurt you with words about yourself, when your pain is the direct result of someone else’s choices, the choice is still yours whether you let that pain suffocate us, or if you let it go.

Flaunt and cherish your scars

Love the body you possess, you are made in God’s creation, so why having low esteem in what God blessed you with?

Do you want to allow the devil work on your mindset or you give him multiple heartbreak with self love and confidence.

Have a positive mindset,make your brain remember you are perfect and then you develop the ability to compliment yourself. The brain tends to believe whatever you make it to and whatever people says about you wouldn’t matter, because YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT MATTERS TO YOURSELF

You are carefully sculptured, beautifully molded in His perfect image❤️. You’re beautiful💖 You’re smart💝 You’re handsome💗 You’re enough🤎 You’re perfect💙 You are YOU👉 Emmahspeaks 🌻

6 ways to balance vaginal acidity/pH level

Yooooooooooo, where my girls at? Emmahspeaks 🌻 has something for you.

On today’s blog, I’ll be giving a few tips on how to balance the vaginal acidity/pH level. I know you might be wondering what that means but VAGINAL ACIDITY/pH LEVEL is the measure of how acidic/ basic the vaginal fluid is😊….So, let’s proceed.

Douching is the act of washing/cleansing/flushing the inner part of vagina with water or mixture of other prepackaged fluid.This is totally different from washing the outer part of the vagina during a bath.Douching causes an increase/imbalance in acidity and it leads to a yeast infection or bacteria vaginosis. According to Dr Renjie Chang, “The vagina does not need to be washed because it is a self cleansing organ and it has an effective ecology bacteria that helps to main the right path”

As women,we prone to several infections because we have sensitive organs that’s why it’s important to observe personal/vaginal hygiene

___change underwears,tampons and pads,they shouldn’t stay longer than 7/8 hours

____Wash underwears in warm water then rinse twice and dry

___Use cotton underwears only

____Don’t hold urine for long

____Use clean water /wipes after urinating

____Do not use soap, cream or perfume.

This is another measure as the high alkaline nature of the semen can affect the pH level of the vagina. Using contraceptive cream is not advisable.

The use of a water base lubricant is highly recommended

Some food help to keep the vagina healthy. Foods/fruits like sweet potatoes 🥔, avocados 🥑, plain yoghurt 🥛,apples🍎, vegetables like cabbage 🍈 would be of great benefit.

Probiotics in this context are substance that aid the health when consumed in adequate amount,they can be obtained in food/fruit (mentioned earlier) or dietary supplements

Water helps to wash the system and helps to reduce the smell of urine.I

I hope these few tips would be of great help.Thanks for reading.Don’t forget to like, follow and comment.

I love you all❤️

I didn’t know my own strength 💪

Sitting in the gloomy atmosphere of her cubicle, feeding her soul with the melodious and nourishing tunes of Whitney Houston’s “I Didn’t Know My Own Strength”. She ponders on how she’s been strong to scale through all her darkest times.Her body might have lived for a few years but her experience and imaginations runs over a thousand years.
She realizes the source of her strength, picks herself back up and determines to be fixed to the same source
Funny how one song describes her whole life right?🙂
But apparently,she wasn’t alone, there was a supreme being behind all of this.

CONNECT TO YOUR SOURCE OF STRENGTH 💪

Love ❤️ and Light 💡

Choose Peace

We have all experienced some level of hurt and disappointment in our lives one way or the other.While some wounds are shallow and relatively easy to dismiss, others run deep, causing some to harbor anger or seek revenge.

Seeking retaliation, rather than forgiveness, traps you in the anger.In fact, some become so consumed by their bitterness that it harms them physically and mentally.An eye for an eye would make everyone blind,so revenge isn’t an option…Let Karma do the work of “revenge”……Have you ever thought if the consequences of revenge? what if it backfires?what if it takes a life?

One thing about revenge is,you can never get enough of it,why not just forgive and choose peace.Put yourself in the shoes of the person who wronged you, won’t you want to be forgiven also?

As Buddha taught, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

Why burning yourself when you could free the pain from yourself.No one said forgiveness is easy.

The only way offenders can really know the hurt they inflicted is to experience it themselves. So we seek an eye for an eye.But while going through such phrases to get at such individuals why not using such energy to improve and grow for ourselves.

We desiring justice, doesn’t mean we should put ourselves in a situation to be drawn back to the past.

The key is that forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, nor does it mean approving, what someone did. It just means that you’re letting go of the anger toward that person.

As you learn to forgive understand that there are several benefits to forgiveness.

However, it’s a lot healthier and takes a lot less energy to forgive someone than to hold a grudge and remain angry.It is the right thing to do for yourself and the peace of mind.

In conclusion, A theologian statement says;
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you”
Lewis B. Smedes

CHOOSE PEACE

APOLOGIZE

FORGIVE

Emmahspeaks 🌻 is sending you love❤️ and light 💡

Thanks for reading

Want to forgive but don’t know how to? HERE’S A FEW TIPS 😊

Healing and forgiveness are synonymous.They are synonyms until you make them become an action.

Forgive others, forgive yourself, forgive life itself for putting you in that situation and be positive.

I would highlight few important ways to forgive wholeheartedly

1. Personally reflect on yourself, how do you want the pain you have been harboring in you for a long time to turn into?Do you know exactly what you desire? look for the problem, understand you are not the problem and pinpoint the obstacles, the obstacles is what is holding you back, it is the part misleading that is allowing you to hold unto the pain, anger, frustration and also resentment which could lead to depression and suicide because of the obstacles.

2. Communicate with someone you can trust and express yourself in every way possible without being judged or mocked. Let your emotions out and don’t feel ashamed doing so.

3.Communicate with the person who hurt you, it is definitely not easy to stare at the misery of your problems, but at that moment, it is important you face the problem facially and commune together in a public place.

Do not forget, that forgiveness is not the service of tolerance. It’s a service to yourself—free yourself from the poison of hatred.

4. Accept that the past can’t be changed, no matter the desire for the pain to be reversed, it is time to accept that being angry towards such individuals won’t rectify what have been done.

When you consider these you know if you deeply want to forgive and let go.

5.Make yourself willing if you want to forgive or if you don’t want to forgive.This particular phrase is when the process would either begin or end. This particular boldness of decisions should not be made casual and with levity of understanding, as it would determine your future relationship with such a person.

6. Fix the relationship with the person who wronged you, rekindle the connection you used to have with this person.

In most cases, you will be the one to initiate the act of this repairing, but if you have thoughtfully engaged in the previous 4 steps, then there is a higher chance of success.

PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT YOU’RE REPAIRING THE RELATIONSHIP,NOT RESTORING IT

It will likely take more time for the relationship to return to normal.

The process of repairing can include kind words, simple gestures or even gifts. So it would take time to be the way you guys were but with time things would sort itself out.

7. Understand what forgiveness means to you. You’ve probably thought that forgiveness is more for their benefit, not yours.But immediately the relationship is on the path to restoration, and you’ve given yourself time to accept the reality of the past, it’s clear that forgiveness is a way for you to find peace and let go for your own good.

8. Forgive the person who wronged you .Actually as I would say, to forgive isn’t easy, considering what the person did to put you in such state you are at the moment.

In some cases the forgiveness might be silent. You may want to verbally forgive the person, even if you might look stupid and the response may be quite discouraging but with my humble guide on the previous steps,then their reaction won’t really matter…..At the end of the day,all that matters is you have found a way to let go,move on and give peace a chance

YOUR PEACE OF MIND MATTERS A LOT☮️☮️☮️☮️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️💆💆💆

Revenge or Forgiveness?

Let’s start with today’s blog with a story.😊

I used to be someone who held grudges against people who wronged me and never ever want to speak to them again until I told my mum how my classmate got me angry by stealing my notebooks in school and how I got punished for that reason and how I vowed to retaliate and make her(my classmate) regret what she did.

“Dear child” she said,”You do not have to retaliate or revenge because it brings greater burden” She made illustrations to the Lord’s prayer “…and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us….”.She made me understand that God is merciful and because we’re made in his image and likeness, we’re to be merciful just like him,we must be able to have a forgiving spirit which is a criteria for seeking forgiveness from God. She gave more teachings from the Bible most especially from Matt 6:14-15 “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.  But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins”… Her teachings gave me a brighter view on absolution and remission

This brings me to the main discourse today.

Which is better, Revenge or Forgiveness?

You’ve probably heard of the word forgiveness. But I want to ask you, what is the exact thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word “Forgiveness”?

To forgive, love and to let go isn’t for the weak.

Well, there might have been a situation, in which you remember that makes you wonder if you could ever think of forgiveness.Maybe situation while growing up, maybe you have an ugly experience that someone you love did to you which broke you beyond repair and dropped you to tears and frustration, which almost lead to depression and suicide. maybe you look at the person and just wish them dead, and that’s the only way forgiveness could ever happen in your own perspective.

We all have different perspectives when it comes to forgiveness.

Your perspective might be preferring the individual who wronged you to die before he/she could be forgiven or let me say, you actually feel repulsed by the idea of forgiving someone who has really hurt you. But true forgiveness does not come with a negative thought or wish,it is letting go of all wrongs and overlooking them for the sake of peace

In all sincerity of heart, while thinking about writing on this particular topic and imagining the depth of principle it has on me,I didn’t think buying gifts, hugging, smiling and all that represents forgiveness, It wasn’t like that, I had more withdrawal than I expected. Definitely which we would dive more into this discussion as we explore the meaning and purpose of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is a process of healing.When you forgive, it let’s your heart heal and opens door to physical, emotional,mental and psychological healing

Forgiveness isn’t for the “faint of heart” because personally when I have been hurt and betrayed to the extent of been wounded emotionally and the opportunity for me to practice forgiveness comes, it isn’t the first thing I would ever do at that point, not even my second option if there was one…First thing that comes to my mind is REVENGE,but I have come to a conclusion that revenge only worsens the situation,it brings up the darkest memories of the past, the betrayal. It breeds anger, malice and frustration thinking about such experience.

Perhaps you are finding it hard to forgive, you may want to undergo a deep process to help you release the anger, sadness, pain,blame, constant guilt and sorrow, that you have been holding inside of you for a very long time.

Do not forget, you must endeavor to allow yourself forgive whatever has happened in the past.
IF YOU CAN’T LET GO OF THE HURT, FORGIVENESS IS NOTHING BUT LIP SERVICE, IT’S JUST A WORD.

Living a well and peaceful lifestyle requires going out of your way to do the unexpected.

Personally, you need to let go of all that blame and the hurt. Express it out, even say it out loud: ‘I forgive this.’

Forgiveness is only real if you let go of the whole consciousness. Only then, would the body process healing.

Do you have relationships in your life where you still may be holding on to that need to punish them for something they’ve done?
Have you ever thought of REVENGE? If so, from this moment on, try to let go. Offer real, true and sincere forgiveness. Bring them into your personal point of view and empty out all of the unspoken words you may be keeping inside, if it means crying to express yourself, do it.

You are not excusing their actions; instead, you are lifting the burden from your own heart.

Friendship TED talk🗯️💭

Still on the friendship talk,we hear shocking stories of friends turning to enemies which makes us to wonder “Does friendship worth the hype at all”

This brings us to the reasons why most people do not want to take the risk of friendship anymore

A person whom you share a bond with, definitely is a person who you should be able to open up to and share your personal burden, success, development with.

Unfortunately, there are ways people sees your development, growth, success and take it as a threat to theirs. Some can go as far as vowing not to see you ahead of them, before you do.

News that should bring joy, eventually yields hatred, envy, jealousy. True friends will always stand by you and be happy for you the little positive achievement you’ve accomplished

If anyone is against your success or happiness,run as far as possible from such person

Assassination is the “trend” but have you ever wondered who gives the assassins information about a person’s movement, achievement or location at a particular time?

In every misfortune, there is an insider passing the information.

Some friends can’t bear seeing their friends succeed before them, so they prefer to end their life and get to explore their wealth, since nobody would ever suspect them killing their own friends.

Normalize keeping people at arm’s length before making them your friend, best words to use instead of “friend” are colleague, classmate, acquaintance,client, playmate to mention a few

As the saying goes “look before you leap” study and watch people whom you want to be friends with before taking the step of friendship.😊

Alot of people, just want to be friends with you to exploit you but it is left for you to increase your standards.You state the rule and be very cautious also

But don’t misunderstand me,I never said that friendship is bad but keeping a friendship with people you don’t trust is what breeds bad friendship

Everything that became bad, has something awesome about it.

In as much as the difficulties in friendship strikes, there are people who makes friendship worth the hype and the risk

Having a good friend isn’t only great for our development but it is for the betterment of our offspring, the connection, the ideas, the innovation, the positive move to success.

Friends are really important in our lives, because we are being taught how to forgive, tolerate, connect, laugh and make a meaningful communication

We learn how to relate to our society because of our type of friends, the ones that do not share the same ideas, views, religion and background Friendship teaches us to coexist with the public.

Friendship and companionship are ordained by God because he created a woman(Friend) for Adam when he saw that he was lonely and needed someone to keep him company,who would assist himself.This illustration teaches us that we all need each other to grow,we are all special in our differences and the synergy of our difference makes a greater and positive change. Friends keep us mentally and physically strong.

Despite how, difficult friendship might be, we shouldn’t be discouraged because friendship brings out the best of ourselves, and with the right friends, our offspring would be proud and look up to us as an example and the community at large.Good friends are supporters, motivators and helpers.😍

So don’t be scared, there are good friends out there with the right mindset.It’s only left to you to study and be careful about choosing your friends.

Shout-out to my real friends out there who’ve been supporting and motivating me to do better,I love you allll😘😘

Thanks for coming to my TED talk😁❤️, don’t forget to like, comment and follow.

With love ❤️ Emmahspeaks 🌻

Who do you call a friend?

While I was much younger,I was completely naive and young to depict or understand what we call friends….I had a misconception about FRIEND/ FRIENDSHIP thinking that anyone I knew or spoke to was my friend not until I grew wiser and mature and certain situations made me realize the meaning of true friendship and who is worthy to be called a friend Growing up, most of us were limited to a geographical space, and our environment could define how we made our friends. School, neighborhood, church, mosque and so on and this brings us to today’s topic on Emmahspeaks 🌻

To start with,we all use and say the word FRIEND,but have you sat back to ponder on the true meaning of friend/friendship?

A friend is someone who’s always there for you not withstanding the circumstances either good or bad,one who advises you,one who understands you,one who brings all positive ideas to life and make you see the need to be successful…..(now by successful,I don’t mean financially successful alone),one who’s ready to listen and speak to you….. someone doesn’t scold or call your attention when you go wrong is that a friend???A good friend should make you yield positive result…..A friend is a person whom one has a bond of mutual and cordial affection with.

The word FRIENDSHIP has been greatly abused to the extent that you could meet someone today and call the person your friend because you’re able to talk and connect with the person….How can you be friends with someone who doesn’t share a bond with you,who can’t lead you on the right track, who can’t dictate when you’re wrong,who can’t push you forward.

We’re all familiar with this bon mot “show me your friend and I’ll tell you who you are” or “Evil communication corrupts good manners”…..The people who came up with these wits knew the basis of friendship and have one way or the other experienced the good and bad side of friendship.

Your choice of friends is who people see you as, friends could make or mar you, there is more to friendship than mere discussions, hanging out and all other fun aspects.If your “friend” is only around you when things are rosy and disappears when things are difficult and bitter,then begin to redefine your “friendship” with such person.Friends are to stand by each other no matter the turbulence

In my next post I’ll be giving more details… please don’t forget to like, comment and follow my blog… Anticipate 😊 Gracias,Dios te bendiga❤️

Emmahspeaks 🌻