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What’s life without women

What’s life without women?
I don’t mean to paint my gender black or anything but I think women are the enemies that women have.
Sometimes ago,I read on the internet that women are not supposed to work but depends on a man for survival and if you ask me,I would say that that is a bottom barrel mentality and something that a shallow minded human would say.
What makes you a GOOD WOMAN is the ability for you to take responsibilities for yourself. You don’t need to depend on anyone regardless of gender.
You’re a helper not a slave or a lesser creature.
If we put the blame on the society,it still falls back to us because we make up the society.
We are responsible for the discriminations, domestic violence and social risks that women experience.
Woman have time and again felt the need to liberate themselves from the societal straitjackets, which for years have forced images on us that do not correspond to our true selves. Being a woman can have no definitive answers, it can mean a lot of things and very different things to each one us, but it is definitely the best thing to be one.——-Pratima Singh.
Being a woman goes beyond being a tool for reproduction or having a man in her life (Don’t get me wrong,I’m not one of the social media “teachers” who brainwash girls in the name of “Feminism”)
We are blessed with so much opportunities and it’s time we sat up and start making use of them.

Nevertheless,a woman is a woman regardless of her marital status and age
Whether she has a man in her life of not
With or without a child
With or without a stable source of income or a good job
The presence of these things don’t make you more or less of a woman.
I just remembered how someone shamed a popular singer of how she’s too old to be single and being the timekeeper of her life reminding her of how menopause is knocking on her door.
We really need to rekindle that fire of gender independence and self reliance in the woman spirit.
In celebration of International Women’s Day,I want to appreciate all good women out there struggling to be better for themselves and young girls like myself who are doing what is right for themselves and for their future.
Happy International women’s Day.
Love❤️ and Light 💡from Emmah 🌻

Siri,play me Nobody be like woman by Simi

Silver lining in the cloud 🌫️

Honestly, I don’t mean to sound vulgar or anything but I’m used to fuck ups and when they happen,I don’t even count them as one.
Recently yeah, I’ve been thinking of how to get myself out of this mess and just start something with my life,you know, something meaningful, valuable, something worth celebrating. The more I think about this,the more I feel like I’m putting so much pressure on myself. Oftentimes I just sit back and admire other people who are in my age bracket and are doing marvelously well and I realize that I’ve been using other people’s success, great things and all of that good stuff to measure mine. Sometimes I see myself as a “bad belle” but I’ve thought wrong about myself. I am not and will never be.
But now I don’t really care,if it makes me work harder and be more,then I really don’t mind. I understand the “comparison is the killer of joy” notion but I believe that if it gives me a little motivation, then it’s not a bad thing.

Sometimes, all we just need is a little push.
A push to come out of our shell
A push to the brighter side of life
A push to greater things
And we can’t get this done alone right?
All we need is self motivation,set goals,prayers and maybe a few friends to support us, also maybe a plate of spaghetti and turkey😂.

Like I said in one of my posts at the beginning of the year “I’m not going to put myself under duress, I’ll just take my time,allow things to fall into place and allow God to work”.But now, I’m putting in my own work, trusting God to make things fall into place and also taking my time.
And this is exactly what I’m doing.
Being my own cheerleader 😌❤️

Love❤️ and Light 💡from Emmah

Restart: it’s a new beginning

Helllooo fam
It’s the beginning of the year (we’re still in January so permit me to use the word “beginning”) and everybody needs some sort of motivation so, here’s mine to you….

One common thing about humans is that we get really burnt out from the hustle and bustle of life, sometimes we don’t even like how we’re living it, how things turn out and we wish there’s some sort of like…ermmm….a “reboot” or a “restart” button.Lmaoooo
Everybody can relate, unfortunately it’s not that easy but fortunately at the same time I’ve come up with some REBOOT OR RESTART tips
So let’s get started.

Identify where the problem or stress is coming from -Work, relationship, family, school (obviously this is like 60% problem of every young Nigerian).
After you must’ve reflected,look for a way to maintain a balance.Decide what you really want do and strike to action,take a deep thought at your thoughts, feelings, actions and emotions.

2. After you must’ve critically reflected on yourself,don’t forget about the mistakes you’ve made .Learn from them, also take notes of your regret and work on them.Find a way to connect the lesson to the positives

3.First consider what you want to achieve, and then commit to it. Set SMART (specific, measureable, attainable, relevant and time-bound) goals that motivate you and write them down to make them feel tangible. Plan the steps you must take to realize your goal and cross off each one as you work through them.
Make your goal specific, Give your goals a time frame and Draw up a proper plan of action.The goals you set need to be realistic and in line with your organisation while keeping in mind your morale and also your motivation.

4. Don’t do things the usual way you’ve been doing them,take new steps, explore your interest and talent then go for it.Look out for your Strength, Weakness, Opportunities and Threats and tackle them, begin to see things from a different and better perspective.

5. Don’t overwork yourself. If you’re itching for a change and longing for a turnover,take it easy on yourself and gradually work up.
When you feel burnt out, take a break and START OVER.

6. You can choose to be selfish to everyone else but don’t be selfish to yourself.
Prioritize everything that concerns you, yourself, your body,your health, your mind, your happiness, your peace of mind.
Prioritize your leisure,make out time for yourself,go out, inhale the fresh breeze, spoil yourself and be ready for enjoyment.

7.In my previous posts,I always emphasize on the need to surround yourself with positive vibes, good energy and healthy friendships or relationship.Yes,great people are rare but you can be one. Keep your mind open and be sure that your FRIENDS are a positive influence to your life.
As my friend would say, “You know what you’re looking for in a person,choose your friends, don’t let them choose you”, and this has been my mantra. Find your niche and build it.

8. Don’t be hard on yourself.Give yourself time to make mistake, it’s okay to make mistakes, it’s totally fine to mess up.
Making mistakes doesn’t negate everything good you’ve done or achieved.
It is a natural part of evolving into a whole new being (not entirely a different person but the same person with a refreshed mindset).

Finally,to get better results,
Repeat the above tips
And start afresh.
Restart,just ignore the voices and restart
This brings us to the end of my pep talk.😊✌️.Have a good read
Emmahspeaks 🌻

It’s gratitude and more

Phewwwwwww. Ending this year with emotional rollercoaster. 2021 is gonna be over in few hours and all that happened has been an eye opener for me therefore my heart is filled with gratitude (because why not)…….. There’s a whole lot of things to be grateful for. The lessons I learnt from the mistakes I made The opportunities I lost because there’s still so much in life to explore.

The people I met and the sweet memories I created with them. I always thought I was anti-social but I met “random people” and I never thought I would be close to them. Well guess what, we’re now best of friends. My friends have made me realize that there’s more to life than living it alone, they’ve taught the virtues of friendship, genuine love and care.

Also my family had tonsssssssss of blessings and I can’t even start counting. My sisters (omgggggggg) are like my top priorities. Taking care of them gave me a wider knowledge of parenting and a huge respect for all parents (either biological or foster).

Most importantly,I am grateful to God for everything,the bad and the good,the happy and sad ,the confused and clear…..Every single thing.

Yeahhh,life can be really hard but I’ll go harder. Life can be tough but I’ll be tougher. 2022 is a chance for me to do better, another chance to be better. Therefore I would rise above my lows. I won’t put pressure on myself. I’ll let things fall into place by themselves. And let life take it’s cause. Bring it on 2022,I don readyyyyyy,I dey wait for you.

And to everyone, thanks for being a part of my 2021 journey.Next year,we go again.I love you alllllll

Affirmation for 2022: I will live💫 I will thrive🌹 I will strive and despite the odds of life,I will survive

You’re grateful for one thing or the other and you’d like to share? …..Let me know in the comment section

Emmah💫

Dear Emmah😊

Everyone who knows me knows how much I love birthdays and cakes and balloons.And it’s my turn today so I decided to pen this down……

I’m not holding back any joy today,I will love every minute of today and every bit of myself,my scars,my flaws,my imperfections,…EVERY SINGLE THING ABOUT ME. Everything has been orchestrated to favour me in my new year.Last year was a bit tough but I was tougher,I got through it and today marks the genesis of a promising, fulfilling and happy year.

I’m positively looking forward to a fresh start plus all the good things that life can throw

DEAR EMMAH, you’re an embodiment of strength, resilience and perfection. Yes I said PERFECTION because my perfection always outshine my flaws There’s a lot of greatness, talents and potentials in you, Take a bold step. Go on a daring adventure. Find it and unlock it

Emmahspeaks 🌻🌻🌻

Thinking out loud

Have you ever been to a place where you feel uncomfortable, scared,a place where you forget about yourself and worry about what happens to someone next and can’t help but pray for the person?
Yeah,I’ve been there before and I’m there right now
Sitting here really gives me a terrible feeling.
You see,the walls of an hospital have heard more prayers than that of a chapel or praying room.
Seeing people in a terrible state especially little kids really break my heart because they’re so innocent for these pains they’re going through and it really traumatizes me because I know how it feels.
If you feel you have nothing to be thankful for,just go to the hospital and you’ll be more thankful.

Sometimes instead of praying for frivolous things
Instead of praying for food, money, clothes,cars
Dedicate time to pray for sick people
They really need your prayers.

Emmahspeaks 🌻

Let it out

Alexa,play me It’s Okay Not To Be Okay by Demi Lovato and Marshmello

Hi darlings, it’s been a while right? Yeahhhh,I know 😌😌, Pardon my inconsistency.I think I’m just in the stage where most humans tend to fall into a state of absolute numbness and grayness. I’ve been going through some psychological orientation about life and I’d like to share.

Few days ago,a friend of mine texted me and said “Emmah,how are you doing.For real,how are you doing” . I didn’t know what to say because I couldn’t think of the perfect words to fit describe how I was feeling and the next thing I saw was her call,I picked and she said “Emmah,let it out,you always keep things to yourself and today I want to hear from you” ,these words touched me and before I knew it,I started crying.For about 17 minutes,my eyes were raining and I could hear her mumbling some words.Little did I know that she was praying for me,the more my sobbing increases,the more intense her prayers were.When I was done,I felt relieved and it was as if a burden had been lifted off my chest.

Crying doesn’t make you look weak, it’s a form of therapy,the words you can’t say to describe your feelings comes in form of tears.The more you hold it in,the more sad you become.

Sometimes when we wonder why there are flood and rain and we wonder if the rain ain’t causing havoc to other people’s life and sometimes we wish God could stop the rain.Little do we know if God stops the rain because it isn’t suitable for us at the moment and we feel because of the troubles and pain the flood causes, it indirectly going to affect us also.

Just because you feel pain today, doesn’t warrant you telling God to end your life, just because the tears are so frequent and nobody seems to understand your pain, doesn’t mean it is all over.

Just because the rain is causing problems at your zone doesn’t mean the rain wouldn’t be beneficial to you later. The things we go through are there to make us stronger not because God doesn’t love us. So beyond the tears, there is something special in you.The tears is just a substance, but you are the person to use the pain to move beyond what you expect.

If God ends you or you end yourself, imagine the potentials to reap beyond the temporary tears. The crowd you could help with the stories, the motivation you could help to people going through what you went through.

So darling,I say it’s okay not to be ok. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel sad but don’t stay in the dark corner for to long

Always remember, You’re beauri😍. You’re a spec Haters gonna hate Potatoes gonna potate Tomatoes gonna tomate but it’s your duty to blind them with your sheer awesomeness and perfection.

You’re loved ❤️❤️. Emmahspeaks 🌻

What’s your genre of music?

It’s funny how I listen to one song 100000001111 times and cry as if it’s my first time listening to it😂

In the darkest time of the day🌌🌃 When emotions are very much awake, Connect the drip of sweet melodies to your ears 🎧🦻. As soon as the tune starts ringing……… my whole body goes numb, my heart beat stops.
And my eyes sends down hot rain. The lyrics take my soul on a trance, The celestial instrumentals🥁🎹🎤🎧 and seraphic voices have intoxicated me🎶🎵🎼 connecting to my soul and feeding it with “tunetrient” in abundance.

Whitney Houston’s I Look To You is my soul’s connection,my own therapy🎧

You can tell my music genre by this post, what’s yours? Let me know in the comment section 😊

Emmahspeaks 🌻

Choose Peace

We have all experienced some level of hurt and disappointment in our lives one way or the other.While some wounds are shallow and relatively easy to dismiss, others run deep, causing some to harbor anger or seek revenge.

Seeking retaliation, rather than forgiveness, traps you in the anger.In fact, some become so consumed by their bitterness that it harms them physically and mentally.An eye for an eye would make everyone blind,so revenge isn’t an option…Let Karma do the work of “revenge”……Have you ever thought if the consequences of revenge? what if it backfires?what if it takes a life?

One thing about revenge is,you can never get enough of it,why not just forgive and choose peace.Put yourself in the shoes of the person who wronged you, won’t you want to be forgiven also?

As Buddha taught, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

Why burning yourself when you could free the pain from yourself.No one said forgiveness is easy.

The only way offenders can really know the hurt they inflicted is to experience it themselves. So we seek an eye for an eye.But while going through such phrases to get at such individuals why not using such energy to improve and grow for ourselves.

We desiring justice, doesn’t mean we should put ourselves in a situation to be drawn back to the past.

The key is that forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, nor does it mean approving, what someone did. It just means that you’re letting go of the anger toward that person.

As you learn to forgive understand that there are several benefits to forgiveness.

However, it’s a lot healthier and takes a lot less energy to forgive someone than to hold a grudge and remain angry.It is the right thing to do for yourself and the peace of mind.

In conclusion, A theologian statement says;
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you”
Lewis B. Smedes

CHOOSE PEACE

APOLOGIZE

FORGIVE

Emmahspeaks 🌻 is sending you love❤️ and light 💡

Thanks for reading

Want to forgive but don’t know how to? HERE’S A FEW TIPS 😊

Healing and forgiveness are synonymous.They are synonyms until you make them become an action.

Forgive others, forgive yourself, forgive life itself for putting you in that situation and be positive.

I would highlight few important ways to forgive wholeheartedly

1. Personally reflect on yourself, how do you want the pain you have been harboring in you for a long time to turn into?Do you know exactly what you desire? look for the problem, understand you are not the problem and pinpoint the obstacles, the obstacles is what is holding you back, it is the part misleading that is allowing you to hold unto the pain, anger, frustration and also resentment which could lead to depression and suicide because of the obstacles.

2. Communicate with someone you can trust and express yourself in every way possible without being judged or mocked. Let your emotions out and don’t feel ashamed doing so.

3.Communicate with the person who hurt you, it is definitely not easy to stare at the misery of your problems, but at that moment, it is important you face the problem facially and commune together in a public place.

Do not forget, that forgiveness is not the service of tolerance. It’s a service to yourself—free yourself from the poison of hatred.

4. Accept that the past can’t be changed, no matter the desire for the pain to be reversed, it is time to accept that being angry towards such individuals won’t rectify what have been done.

When you consider these you know if you deeply want to forgive and let go.

5.Make yourself willing if you want to forgive or if you don’t want to forgive.This particular phrase is when the process would either begin or end. This particular boldness of decisions should not be made casual and with levity of understanding, as it would determine your future relationship with such a person.

6. Fix the relationship with the person who wronged you, rekindle the connection you used to have with this person.

In most cases, you will be the one to initiate the act of this repairing, but if you have thoughtfully engaged in the previous 4 steps, then there is a higher chance of success.

PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT YOU’RE REPAIRING THE RELATIONSHIP,NOT RESTORING IT

It will likely take more time for the relationship to return to normal.

The process of repairing can include kind words, simple gestures or even gifts. So it would take time to be the way you guys were but with time things would sort itself out.

7. Understand what forgiveness means to you. You’ve probably thought that forgiveness is more for their benefit, not yours.But immediately the relationship is on the path to restoration, and you’ve given yourself time to accept the reality of the past, it’s clear that forgiveness is a way for you to find peace and let go for your own good.

8. Forgive the person who wronged you .Actually as I would say, to forgive isn’t easy, considering what the person did to put you in such state you are at the moment.

In some cases the forgiveness might be silent. You may want to verbally forgive the person, even if you might look stupid and the response may be quite discouraging but with my humble guide on the previous steps,then their reaction won’t really matter…..At the end of the day,all that matters is you have found a way to let go,move on and give peace a chance

YOUR PEACE OF MIND MATTERS A LOT☮️☮️☮️☮️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️💆💆💆