Category Archives: growth

Silver lining in the cloud 🌫️

Honestly, I don’t mean to sound vulgar or anything but I’m used to fuck ups and when they happen,I don’t even count them as one.
Recently yeah, I’ve been thinking of how to get myself out of this mess and just start something with my life,you know, something meaningful, valuable, something worth celebrating. The more I think about this,the more I feel like I’m putting so much pressure on myself. Oftentimes I just sit back and admire other people who are in my age bracket and are doing marvelously well and I realize that I’ve been using other people’s success, great things and all of that good stuff to measure mine. Sometimes I see myself as a “bad belle” but I’ve thought wrong about myself. I am not and will never be.
But now I don’t really care,if it makes me work harder and be more,then I really don’t mind. I understand the “comparison is the killer of joy” notion but I believe that if it gives me a little motivation, then it’s not a bad thing.

Sometimes, all we just need is a little push.
A push to come out of our shell
A push to the brighter side of life
A push to greater things
And we can’t get this done alone right?
All we need is self motivation,set goals,prayers and maybe a few friends to support us, also maybe a plate of spaghetti and turkey😂.

Like I said in one of my posts at the beginning of the year “I’m not going to put myself under duress, I’ll just take my time,allow things to fall into place and allow God to work”.But now, I’m putting in my own work, trusting God to make things fall into place and also taking my time.
And this is exactly what I’m doing.
Being my own cheerleader 😌❤️

Love❤️ and Light 💡from Emmah

Let yourself bloom like a flower 🌻

I’ve been asked questions like “Emmah,why did you take a break on your blog”.Well, it’s hard to accept at first but it’s actually a good sign.
A good sign that I’m here to continue from where I stopped.It was hard to accept that I needed to get into a space of recovery-A new phase of learning, relearning and unlearning, a new stage of reshaping and resharpening my mindset.

You’ll be surprised to know that I’m scared of growth and maturity.The word “grow up” scares alot of people (I know it’s not something to be scared about) but it comes with alot of expectations, pressure, responsibilities, tension and sacrifices.
Growth is like being lost in the woods–every direction leads to nowhere at first, it seems very tough and scary but as you journey through, you’ll realize that it’s interesting and adventurous. There’s a whole lot of risks to take and decisions to make. You take steps you never expect you would,this could turn in favour of you or otherwise. In this situation,you decide if you want to SINK or SWIM. Now this decision can’t be possible without GROWTH and MATURITY.

Of a truth,life can get really frustrating, situations will definitely attempt to break you but you have to put yourself out there again and try. The more development we make,the more we tend to grow and outgrow.
You see,it’s so hard to give an advice when you’ve not been through tough process of growth where you’re broken beyond pieces but you know,some words can heal and they definitely will but sometimes, our mindset is fragile to accept the reality that things wouldn’t remain the same forever.
This is my little bid to give you hope, you’re stronger than you can ever imagine. All you have to do is to let growth happen,let maturity take it’s cause.Let go of toxic people, things, memories and circumstances that deprive you of emotional and mental growth.
You can’t hold on to bad memories and expect to grow emotionally.
Open the bag and let them go,free yourself emotional and mental burden and dwell in optimism

Physically-maintain hygiene and “do your thing”.Dress up, smell nice and look peng.

Socially-stay around people who bring out the positive spark in you. Choose your friends and don’t let them choose you. Watch out for positive development,if there’s none,then you’re in the wrong circle.

Spiritually- Practice your faith SINCERELY
Keep it in mind that growth is not always easy but it’s rewards are great.
When growth and maturity finally takes a toll on you,let yourself bloom like a flower.

With love❤️
Emmahspeaks🌻